2016...it's just a number, don't hate it, don't blame it, don't celebrate its passing. It's not real.
2016 didn't take away your favorite celebrity or elect your biggest nightmare as President.
If you need to blame anything blame change, blame impermanance. Life is full of changes, nothing lasts forever. Without change we wouldn't be here today. Without change, there is no creativity, ingenuity, or progress. Without death, there is no life.
According to the teachings of the Buddha, life is comparable to a river. It is a progressive moment, a successive series of different moments, joining together to give the impression of one continuous flow. It moves from cause to cause, effect to effect, one point to another, one state of existence to another, giving an outward impression that it is one continuous and unified movement, where in reality it is not. The river of yesterday is not the same as the river of today. The river of this moment is not going to be the same as the river of the next moment. So goes life. It changes continuously, becomes something or the other from moment to moment.
Take for example the life of an individual. It is a fallacy to believe that a person would remain the same person during their entire life time. We change every moment. We actually live and die but for a moment, or we live and die moment by moment, as each moment leads to the next. A person is what he is in the context of the time in which he exists. It is an illusion to believe that the person you have seen just now is the same as the person you are just now seeing or the person whom you are seeing now will be the same as the person you will see after a few moments.
Embrace the change because it is necessary. This, above all other things, should move you to live in the moment, to love your neighbor, and to show compassion for all life.
Stop wasting time waiting for change to hit you across the head, it's time to live!
“When practiced to its fullest, mindful eating turns a simple meal into a spiritual experience, giving us a deep appreciation of all that went into the meal’s creation as well a deep understanding of the relationship between the food on our table, our own health, and our planet’s health.” - Thich Nhat Hahn
It's time we start eating with intention and pay attention to our consumption.
Year in and year out, so many of us try, and try again, to lose weight through some random diet plan, a new exercise regimen, or some amazing new scheme. These plans are all about sacrifice and quick fixes, they focus on elimination. Over and over, there are lists of things you shouldn't do or need to avoid. Don't do this, don't do that, no, no, no....
I don't need to tell you, it's all wrong!!! How many more yo-yo diets are you going to subject yourself to before you get the message that it doesn't work? The intention is always good, but the plan is almost always wrong. Anything that limits your options is, more than likely, going to fail. If it works it backfires when you go back to reality.
I have so many clients who come to me to get healthy and in our sessions, they tell me how much they love to eat. Heck, we all love to eat. There is great joy in eating, in trying new food, in discovering new restaurants, in spending time with our family and friends over a great meal. We love to eat, some of us live to eat. Many of my friends make a living in the food industry. FOOD IS AWESOME!!! So why would we ever want to take it away? It's a futile practice.
I'm writing this blog with the intention of changing the focus from dieting to eating mindfully. Instead of focusing on the what not to do's, let's focus on the how to's. I build my practice around mindfulness and meditation, so it's no wonder I am a fan and promoter of mindful eating.
Mindful eating is the practice of focusing one's full attention on the act of eating. Paying attention to the smell, look, and flavors of food while being focused on the experience and not distracted by other things. It involves slowing down and staying present, in order to derive pleasure and satisfaction from every bite. Mindful eating can be a transformative habit that helps us avoid over consumption and rekindles the simple joy of being present with our food and the experience of consuming it.
I have studied the eating habits of many people over the years. I worked in the food industry for decades, so I have a great perspective on this thing called eating. Many people who love to eat are not truly loving the food, they are just loving the escape while eating. It's comforting and can be such a great way to overcome stress and anxiety, escape from reality, deal with emotions, or just take us away from whatever else is going on in our lives. We have gotten so caught up in our busy lives that our eating habits have become rushed. We are more centered on quantity over quality, and on convenience over enjoyment.
It's time to change our perspective on eating. If you've ever practiced meditation, you know that it allows you to get in touch with your feelings. Imagine using that process to get in touch with the full flavor and joy brought to you by your food. Mindful eating is about being present in the meal. It's about focusing our attention on the food. When you slow down and let the flavors develop on your palate, you'll know what it is truly like to enjoy eating.
Mindful Eating is allowing yourself to become aware of the positive and nurturing opportunities that are available through the selection and preparation of your food. It's also about respecting your own inner wisdom, about using all your senses to choose food that is both satisfying to you and nourishing to your body. Mindful eating is about acknowledging your responses to food (likes, dislikes or neutral) without judgment, and becoming more aware of physical hunger and satisfaction. It's a process that will change your relationship to food.
It begins with slowing down, making the right choices. When we take the time to choose food that is going to serve our health we are making the mindful choice. Like anything we do mindfully, we bring ourselves present by focusing on the breath. Just take two or three deep breaths before you start to eat. You can do this to yourself and no one will probably even notice. Bring yourself fully to the meal.
Think about how hungry you are, get in touch with how you feel. Think about the look, the colors, the texture, and imagine how it will taste and feel in your mouth. You can even go a step further and think about where the food came from. Imagine or remember how it was prepared. Appreciate it, rather than just take it for granted. Mindfully, you can express gratitude for it, always remembering some living thing sacrificed for this meal. Someone (maybe even you) labored for you to have this meal, appreciate it! Mindfully show gratitude for what you are about to eat, it's what grace is all about.
When you eat, stay focused on small bites. While you are chewing, take time to allow the flavors to develop on your palate. We have been programmed to focus so much on the saltiness or sweetness of our food that we miss the nuanced flavors. Take the time to enjoy, to relax, and ask yourself, does it taste sweet, crunchy, creamy, salty? Identify the texture, temperature, flavor, consistency. These things are there waiting to be appreciated. There is so much to be discovered in your food if you take your time.
Put your fork down while you are chewing and let it rest a moment. This allows you to be present in the bite and prevents you from mindlessly reaching for the next one. Slowing down also allows your body time to communicate how full it is. When we eat fast, our body doesn't receive the signals fast enough to communicate how full we are. That's why after a big meal, we sometimes feel overly full, it sneaks up on us because we aren't present.
Change the Food Perspective
People who are overweight tend to think about food by numbers; calories, fat grams, sodium, carbs, etc. They tend to forget that there is more to food than numbers. Instead of taking the time to enjoy that delicious muffin, they think about how it fits in their diet plan or how much weight they will gain from that lasagna. Mindful eating restores the pleasure in food without sacrificing the goal.
Of course, this is where we start to make excuses. We start thinking that we don't always have time to eat this way. Heck, that may be true sometimes, but there is no way you have to rush through every meal. It would be awesome to say it never happens, but reality gets in the way of our best intentions. I challenge you to make an effort. Eat mindfully at more meals than not and you will see a difference. After time, it will become a normal practice in your life.
Purposefully focusing your attention on the present can help you embrace companionship, connectivity, contentment, and help make life more meaningful. When you practice this while eating you can make better connections with the food and most importantly with how your body feels.
Try making the effort to eat consciously, sitting down at a table, savoring the smells, textures, and flavors. Chewing thoughtfully and thoroughly, and you will feel satiated sooner, and consume less along the way. By thoroughly chewing your food it digests more easily and your body gets the time to fully absorb and make use of the nutrients you've provided.
The end goal is always to consume less, not through deprivation but through satisfaction. How great is that plan?
Give up on the restrictions and open your mind to being present with your food. You will find that less is more. You will be satisfied with much less and that is the key to a healthier life. Stop the crazy diets and just be present.
Your taste buds will thank you, your mind will thank you, your body will thank you!
"The best thing about the future is that it comes one day at a time" -Abraham Lincoln
Step five of completing your resolution is the best one. It's all about being mindful. It's putting it all in perspective and bringing it all into the present. When we look at the four previous steps; Forgiveness, Responsibility, Change, and Commitment, we must remember to keep the whole process in present perspective. Taking these things individually is challenging, we must be sure to keep a good perspective on the process. We tend to overthink, over analyze, and get caught up in the drama of making change. This is where the perspective of taking things one day at a time, comes in to play.
It's just our nature to focus too much on the future or on the past. Most of the things we worry about happening in the future will never happen. Spending time rethinking the past is a waste because what's done is done, take the lessons you've learned and let it go. It just makes more sense to approach change one day at a time, than to let yourself get overwhelmed with the process. One of the dangers in making change is we expect perfection and we expect it NOW. This is why so many programs focused around addiction use the mantra "one day at a time". It works! It's about living in the present, being in the moment, and moving forward!
Living in the moment allows us to focus on what we need to do in this time to succeed. It eliminates the danger of trying to take on too much at one time. All you have to do is get through today. It's the sensible approach to change. It works perfectly with the previous four steps.
Because you're living in this moment, you can let go of the blame you have for whatever brought you to this point. Tackling your resolution in the moment allows you to take responsibility for what is happening now, not what might happen later or what brought you here. When you look at embracing change, it is easier to think about it in small steps. Just change for today. Then you are able to commit to succeeding today, and that's a lot less worrisome than worrying about doing it long term.
Here's the best part about taking it one day at a time. If you mess up, you start over. So many people give up on their resolutions because they had a bad day and didn't succeed in their plan for change. Maybe you ate something you shouldn't, or drank something you shouldn't have, or smoked, or whatever it is that "set you back", it really didn't. It was just a mistake, give yourself a break and move forward. Maybe you didn't do it yesterday but today is a new day.
We all have bad days, we all make mistakes. By taking a mindful approach, you are able to look at it from the perspective of a lesson learned. You can evaluate what got in your way, learn from it, and start again. One bad day or a couple days of messing up shouldn't derail the process completely. By forgiving yourself for the bad day; by taking responsibility for the mistake, deciding if there is something you need to do differently, and then recommitting to start again, you can move forward. One day at a time, one moment at a time. Hold yourself accountable for the mistake but move on rather than give up.
Remember, you are in this for the long haul. Changing long-term patterns is a long-term goal. Don't let a short-term setback take you from your commitment to change. Shake it off and start the next day committed to your goal again. This is how you succeed with change, you recommit.
The way we show up in our lives each day effects our chances of success. Just because you didn't show up 100% one day doesn't mean you can't the next. The good thing about the commitment you give to yourself is you can give yourself another chance, you deserve it. In fact, you deserve as many chances to succeed as it takes.
When you live a life that is focused on the present, you will find a calm confidence in knowing you just have to get through this day. Taking this change one step at a time, not always focusing on the big picture, makes this endeavor much more manageable. When we can focus on the moment, we can be more in tune to what we need to do right now.
Every day we get a new beginning, a new start. The morning comes bearing gifts of renewal, redemption, and a fresh start. Just as the sun rises each morning in all its glory, we have an opportunity for a new beginning, a glorious new start. The best part is, we can let go of the mistakes we made yesterday, they don't matter when we start fresh in the present day.
Finally, on this journey of change, never once did I mention the word perfection. Achieving your goals and improving your life doesn't mean everything has to be perfect. We are not striving for perfection, only progress. When you stop trying to be perfect and embrace progress, you free yourself up to live life on your terms. Putting things in the perspective of making progress, you can approach each day with the mindset of improving just a bit more. Make some progress!
The promise of the morning means we have a chance to progress more. Even if it just a fraction, it's still progress. Even if you don't feel it was much progress at all, you can learn from it, and that's progress.
Day by day, step by step, living in this moment, you can make incremental changes towards your goal. Don't strive to be perfect, don't set unrealistic deadlines. Take it slow and steady. These incremental changes over long periods of time will add up to massive change. Even if there's a setback, you can move forward the next day! Do it long enough and you succeed!
Embrace each day. Be present.
One day at a time. One moment at a time.
The Resolution Revolution:(click links below to review)
Step 1 Forgiveness
Step 2 Take Responsibility
Step 3: Embrace The Change
Step 4: Make The Commitment
Step 5: Keep It In Perspective
"Most people fail not because they lack the desire, but because they lack the commitment." -Vince Lombardi
When I first start working with a client one of the first questions I am asked is, "How long is it going to take me to change?". Of course, there is no simple answer, but I will usually ask in return, "How committed are you to make it happen?". The best answer is, "It will take as long as it takes, it all depend on how committed you are."
Making real, lasting change means reworking patterns and behaviors that have evolved over time. When done correctly, change is slow, steady, and deliberate. If we were to draw out the process of change on a board, it would look like a slinky. Progress keeps looping back on itself. But like a slinky going down the stairs, you will keep moving toward the goal, if you have the commitment.
Anything worth doing takes time and energy. In this day and age of instant gratification, that is not something we are used to. You can't undo years of a habit in just a few days.
Commitment requires a vision, energy, a promise to yourself, and hard work. Remember, if it was easy you would have done it a long time ago.
In my practice, we focus heavily on the vision. I think it's important to picture yourself being successful at whatever goal you are setting out on. We work to envision how that success will look in your life. That's a very important part of the process, seeing where your commitment will lead. Imagining your life after you succeed. A colleague of mine even calls her practice "Envision to Achieve." If you can envision being successful, it's easier to commit to the process.
When making this commitment must include a promise. Not a promise to your partner, to your boss, or to someone else, you have to make a promise to yourself. You can bring others in for support, but this must be about you. If you're doing it solely because someone asked you to, it probably won't stick. It's about you and that's important to remember.
The final part of your commitment is agreeing to do the work, for as long as it takes. If you're not willing to do the work, then don't waste your time. Work means putting your energy into something you believe in, and you've promised to believe in yourself. It takes work to succeed at anything worth achieving.
Commitment is a big word, it comes with a lot of pressure. When you decide you are willing to make the promise to yourself, to put the energy into your vision, and decide it's worth the work, you have a commitment.
When confronted with a challenge, the committed heart will do whatever it takes to succeed, the undecided heart will do whatever it takes to escape.
Commit, because you're worth it!
"You have two choices: either accept conditions as they are or take responsibility for changing them". -Denis Waitley
Accepting and embracing change is an important step in following through with a resolution. Most of the time, people give up because they aren't willing to fully embrace the change.
Change is difficult.
For some, change is more difficult than for others, but everyone at some point in their life, has struggled with change. Change can create fear, uncertainty, and doubt. Many of us approach change with a negative view, ignoring the positive growth that may come.
Change happens every day, all around us. Rules change, technology changes, the weather changes – our world is all about change and to survive, we must adapt and accept changes. It can be scary, but more often than not, once the mindset is adjusted to accept the change, we wonder why it took so long and forget we were ever resistant in the first place.
Perhaps the fear of change is really a fear of loss – because even "good" changes bring about loss – the loss of something familiar, the loss of autonomy, the loss of our comfort zone, the loss of a relationship.
Working on change with clients in my practice, the first step I take is convincing them that they are ready for change. I do it subtly, asking leading questions and steering them in the right direction. More often than not, I don't ever say the word change when we are in a session, because talking about change puts people on the defensive.
In our sessions, I help them to discover there are other ways of doing things, new insights to be gained, new habits to replace old, and personal growth to be experienced. We start to view change as an opportunity, to let go of things – a chance to evolve and grow – and that lessens the discomfort.
If you sit and think about all the change that has occurred in your lifetime, it's mind boggling, and you've survived all of it.
Without change growth is not possible. Unless you embrace change you can never move on. We are changing, whether we like it or not. So, this year, instead of fighting it or hiding from it, why not mindfully embrace it?
When we accept change in a mindful way, living in the present, we accept that change is just another part of our humanity. Mindfully we cherish the fact that NOTHING lasts forever. This knowing brings about a deeper appreciation for what we have and for what is still to come.
When we embrace change this way, we love harder because we know that losing is part of this life; we speak kinder, because we know words effect feelings and have consequences; and we breathe better because we know the difference between embracing the present and fearing the future. When we accept that change is inevitable and decide to control as much if it as we can, we become peaceful with the changes in life.
Change is synonymous with growth, with second chances, with new beginnings, with do-overs and exciting starts. Change means something new, unfamiliar, and vastly different is possible. Change adds adventure to our life.
It's true, sometimes change is awful. But mostly change is awful only in the beginning because you’re just not used to it. Once you settle in and embrace it, you usually discover it’s not so bad after all. Change leads you to places, to people, to opportunities, and to a life of new possibilities. It shows you ways that your life can be different from the one you had before. It shows you what kind of person you are, it builds strength and endurance, it builds character and confidence.
Change is a gift of new beginnings, of letting go. It's a way of allowing you to open your wings to fly. You may not soar at first, you might stumble and crash to the ground a few times as you learn how to flap your wings and be carried by the wind. But once you embrace it, you will take flight. Then you’ll see the world on the ground mirroring those fears back to you, tiny and insignificant, like ants.
Don't let change control you, embrace it, guide it, and take control. That's how you conquer change! That's how you make resolutions work long term.
Remember, if nothing ever changed, there'd be no butterflies.
Gandhi said "The weak can never forgive, forgiveness is an attribute of the strong."
Forgiveness is a gift to yourself - it's not given to whomever has betrayed or wronged you. Harboring those angry feelings is just poison to our mind, body, and spirit. It holds us back from finding peace in our lives.
Being able to forgive is freedom. Challenge yourself to find forgiveness in the New Year and you have to start by forgiving yourself.
Forgive yourself for not being healthy; for not taking care of your body; for not saving money; for being a procrastinator; for being addicted to something; for not loving enough; or whatever it is you need to forgive yourself for, do it. Forgiveness is the first step in creating change in our lives. You can't move forward without first letting go. You can't give something up without forgiving yourself for holding on to or being addicted to it.
Next, move on to finding forgiveness for others. It's not an easy thing to do, but it's worth the effort. Remember, this forgiveness does not need to be stated out loud and the person you are forgiving doesn't necessarily have to know you've forgiven them. Forgiveness is about your desire to find peace with any situation or person. Others need to be involved. This is an exercise in YOU! Like any exercise it takes work to be good at it.
Along your journey of forgiveness you need to reflect on the people and the things blame on for what happened in your life this past year. This goes deeper in step 2 of the Revolution, but starting here, you need to forgive yourself for blaming other people, places, or things for whatever negative effect they had on your life.
This journey of forgiveness, for yourself, and for others, should be a part of your daily practice in living a peaceful, happy life in the coming year. You will see, once you have settled on forgiveness, your burden is lighter, you have more freedom to be at peace.
Make it happen, do it in meditation, in reflection, or in a journal. Whatever practice works best for you, take this first step and start the year off right. Start the resolution with forgiveness.
This is Step 1 in the Resolution Revolution!
coming Soon: step 2, releasing the blame (coming soon)
"The moment you take responsibility for everything in your life is the moment you can change anything in your life." -Hal Elrod
I read so many posts about what a horrible year 2016 was. People say "I tried to make the best of it but something always came up to make me miserable.", or "This year treated me so badly, I didn't deserve this.", or "I wanted 2016 to be a great year but too many bad things happened."
I get it, there are so many things going on in this world that can pull you out of balance and mess with your happiness. The world is a crazy place, but listen, here's the truth, You have the power to be happy right in your hands. It's such a cop-out to blame your unhappiness on politics, or something that happened hundreds of miles from where you are. We don't give ourselves enough credit for the power we have to be happy. We blame others; other people, other things, other events...everything and everyone else, but ourselves. People today are not likely to take responsibility for their lives and that sets us up for failure.
The cause of unhappiness is that we surrender control to other people or things. The reason we feel bad is because ww have given up the power to be happy, on our own. We don't feel good, so we blame someone else. We don't feel safe, so we blame something else. We don't feel healthy so we blame the world. It's the blame game and it can be very satisfying not to take be responsible. It's easier to point fingers and take satisfaction in thinking "it's not my fault."
You want a clue on how to be happy?
JUST BE HAPPY!!!
If you really want to be happy, you can be happy. That long list of things that have made you unhappy, get rid of them, stop with the long list of blame. For real change and happiness to take place, you have to stop making excuses. I guarantee you, there are people who have less money, smaller houses, no car, and have so much less than you have who are happy. It's time to stop making excuses for our misery and start taking responsibility.
I've spent the better part of this past month feeling unhappy about the direction we may be heading in, blaming everyone for their political views, their naivete, their disregard for people's rights, etc. Blaming everyone and everything for a future which may or may not come to pass. I've been focused on fear and worry. That's not living in reality. That's definitely not being mindful.
Ready for another clue? That worry and fear will get you NOWHERE!!!
Whether or not we have a good life, a mediocre life, or a terrible life is not so much contingent on the actual circumstances of our lives, but in our thoughts pertaining to the circumstances.
We can waste all of our time and energy complaining and focusing on finding something or someone to blame, but we are just wasting time and surrendering our control. Using precious energy that should be better spent in living in the moment, living the life that is really happening, and taking control of our world. We have to let go of the what ifs and the what might happens, and focus on what is happening in our lifestyle this moment.
No one else is responsible for your happiness. Whatever happens in our world, we choose how to react. We choose how it is going to affect our life. We choose our level of fear and misery. We can choose to be happy.
The next HUGE step in moving forward in the New Year and being happier is to stop being the victim. No one can make you feel unhappy, it is your choice. Bad things happen but you have to take responsibility for what you do with those bad things.
It's time to take responsibility and take your power back. The world around us keeps trying to convince us we are not in control. We are bombarded with messages that we need this thing, or that thing, to make us happy...we don't! Happiness can only come from inside. There is nothing you can buy or be given that can give you lifelong happiness, unless you decide to be happy.
To make true change and move forward with resolve, we need to take responsibility for change and for our happiness. Spend some time reflecting on your attitude towards happiness and let go of the feeling that we must depend on someone or something else to be happy.
Always remember, hostile people see a hostile world, while loving people see a loving one. The more often we choose to focus on loving thoughts we will notice our outer reality begins to shift in order to reflect our happiness.
Take control, use your power, and be happy!
Judment needs to be confronted mindfully
At times, we will be put in situations where we have to face someone who judge's us based on something we've said, something we've done, how we look, who we love, or something else . This judgment can be expressed in how they treat you, react to you, or through gossip and whispers.
When confronted with judgment, the first reactions normally are to fight it, to brush it off, or to deny it. The reality is that judgment elicits an emotional response. We can say we brush it off and don't feel anything, but that is not the entirely true. Judgment brings out emotions that some of us would rather leave alone.
Emotions are not better left alone. In our mindful practice, we have learned that emotions are best resolved when confronted and acted on, rather than dismissed and ignored.
In our emotional state, it may seem the best reaction would be to confront the person who judges and try to defend your position. Upon reflection, however, that action will usually be futile, as the person judging you is not likely to change the perspective around the situation, no matter what you say. In our mindful practice, we have to let go of the ego's defensive position and embrace the reality of our emotions.
In a mindful way, we can then acknowledge the emotion, but not let it diminish our sense of worth, or cause us to doubt our own position or convictions. Emotional responses are like thoughts, they come and they go. They are fed by denial and the more we fight them the stronger they dig in to our mind. In our mindful practice the most difficult, but important thing to do, is open our minds to the emotions.
There are Monks who have been practicing mindful meditation for decades who still have difficulty embracing negative emotions. It takes practice and skill and even then, it's hard. Our emotional responses come from somewhere deep within. To fight them only makes them worse, and to hide from them only makes them linger. The only solution is to open up to them in a peaceful, mindful way, letting of the ego that tells you to fight.
When we are confronted with judgement an anger builds within, an anxiety that is difficult to recognize, but you can feel it in your nerves, in your heart rate, and in the way your body tenses up. These physical responses are unpleasant, but they aren't permanent. They last as long as we allow them to. Always remember, the mind controls the body. Thought and breath can ease the tension.
This is where we bring our practice of meditation to work for us. The way the body tenses can be resolved by focusing on the breath and letting go of the tension. When we focus our thoughts on the emotions and acknowledge them, one by one, we breathe through and let them run through our mind. Then we focus on releasing them on the exhale and clear space in our mind for more positive thoughts.
Then we have to release ourselves from the judgement we have for ourselves for allowing these emotions appear. We have to be sure not to judge ourselves for these emotional responses. If we judge ourselves then we are putting ourselves at odds with our emotions. Instead of acknowledging them, we are judging them, and they cannot be resolved without acknowledgement. To not judge ourselves again, we focus on our breathing. We quiet the mind, and think about how our body is reacting. Then we begin to release the tension on the exhales.
Once we get our own judgment under control, we look at the reality of the one doing the judging. When we think about where the judgment comes from, we realize that the judgment says more about the person doing the judging than it does about us. If they judge our intelligence perhaps they have an insecurity about their own intelligence. If they judge our appearance, it is probably a reflection of their own insecurities. If they judge our life, perhaps they are not happy in their own life.
When we start to think this way, we will start to feel empathy for that person. Empathy doesn't mean we condone their action, it just opens us up to see things from a different perspective. We don't know what they are going through, or what filter they are judging us through, But if we are secure with ourselves, that shouldn't matter. By focusing on empathy, we take the control back. Regardless of what the other person is saying or doing, we don't let them hijack our emotions. Their opinion is just that, their opinion.
If we allow ourselves to focus on their narrow opinion of us, then we get stuck in a negative emotional place. By releasing that, and seeing it from a different perspective, we allow ourselves to stand tall to the criticism. Then we can move forward and be proud of who we are and what we do and release that judgment from our minds. We embrace our own truth. No one can take away our authentic truth, no matter what. They may not like it but that doesn't matter.
Every day we are reminded of things we should let go of. Every day we have to practice letting go of the negatives in our lives. At times, that may even mean letting go of a person, and that's okay. If we cling to these judgmental people we run the risk of having to confront that judgment over and over. When we let go we can focus on forgiveness, embrace the positive in our lives, and move on.
Forgiveness comes from the heart and it releases us from the burden of hanging on to the negative. We can forgive without being asked for forgiveness. We can forgive without having to say it out loud to anyone. Forgiveness starts in our hearts, and when we focus our meditation on forgiveness, it heals the part of the heart that may have been broken or injured during the judgement.
We are filled with an endless capacity for compassion, empathy, and forgiveness. When we choose to focus on those things, rather than the judgement. we allow ourselves to be free, to embrace a peaceful life, and to bring more love into the world.
The point of our mindful practice and meditation is to embrace our emotions and resolve them positively. This is how we free ourselves from judgment, and this is how we open the world to more love!
No Judgment here!