Gandhi said "The weak can never forgive, forgiveness is an attribute of the strong."
Forgiveness is a gift to yourself - it's not given to whomever has betrayed or wronged you. Harboring those angry feelings is just poison to our mind, body, and spirit. It holds us back from finding peace in our lives.
Being able to forgive is freedom. Challenge yourself to find forgiveness in the New Year and you have to start by forgiving yourself.
Forgive yourself for not being healthy; for not taking care of your body; for not saving money; for being a procrastinator; for being addicted to something; for not loving enough; or whatever it is you need to forgive yourself for, do it. Forgiveness is the first step in creating change in our lives. You can't move forward without first letting go. You can't give something up without forgiving yourself for holding on to or being addicted to it.
Next, move on to finding forgiveness for others. It's not an easy thing to do, but it's worth the effort. Remember, this forgiveness does not need to be stated out loud and the person you are forgiving doesn't necessarily have to know you've forgiven them. Forgiveness is about your desire to find peace with any situation or person. Others need to be involved. This is an exercise in YOU! Like any exercise it takes work to be good at it.
Along your journey of forgiveness you need to reflect on the people and the things blame on for what happened in your life this past year. This goes deeper in step 2 of the Revolution, but starting here, you need to forgive yourself for blaming other people, places, or things for whatever negative effect they had on your life.
This journey of forgiveness, for yourself, and for others, should be a part of your daily practice in living a peaceful, happy life in the coming year. You will see, once you have settled on forgiveness, your burden is lighter, you have more freedom to be at peace.
Make it happen, do it in meditation, in reflection, or in a journal. Whatever practice works best for you, take this first step and start the year off right. Start the resolution with forgiveness.
This is Step 1 in the Resolution Revolution!
coming Soon: step 2, releasing the blame (coming soon)